I’ve been in the bridal business for over 12 years and I’ve seen a large number of brides come through my doors. Some of them more than once! The style of wedding gowns have changed over the years and the selection of bridesmaids dresses have gone from – “Are you really going to make us wear that dress?” to “Now that’s a dress I can wear again”. Brides now have more decisions to make than ever before and the joy of planning that big day can sometimes be overshadowed with decisions and the overwhelming onslaught of……….everyone else’s OPINION.
Brides come in by themselves, take their time and select the perfect dress that looks absolutely gorgeous. After doing this for so long I know the “look” that comes across their face. They are beaming, near tears and they know this is the dress for them. Then they make the statement that just breaks my heart……”I want to let my _____________ see the dress. The___________ can be filled in with my mother, sister, cousin, maid-of-honor, bridesmaid, future mother-in-law. Sorry to have to throw mother’s in with this lot but some of you are just as bad if not worse when it comes to telling the bride what SHE should do on HER day.
The bride comes in excited with her ______________ and she asks for the dress that we have tucked away just for HER – the dress of her dreams. She steps into the dressing room and steps out for the unveiling. I don’t have to look at their faces to know what their thinking. When I look at the bride and see that deflated look on her face, I know what’s about to happen. The bride is about to hear…”You like that dress?”, “I don’t think that dress is for you”, “I just don’t like it.”
My strong brides stand their ground and don’t care what anyone thinks. My brides who like to please? They buckle and listen to what everyone has to say, lose their confidence, become confused and depressed.
Ladies, planning a wedding is enough. Take my advice and prevent the drama before it starts. If you do not feel you are strong enough to just say no, follow these steps:
It’s YOUR DAY! Let it be about YOU!!!!